Feeling Stuck?

Posted by: Jo Banks

Date: 15-08-2016

Feeling ‘stuck' whether that's a job, relationship, goal or task is something to which we can all relate... 

Once we feel stuck, it's easy to slip into learned helplessness, feeling unable to move forward or find a solution.

Here are my three top, quick and straightforward tips to help you become unstuck:

Tip 1 - Get Moving

Get up, out of your chair, out of your current surroundings and move your body.  Go for a walk, go to the gym or simply get up and do something that's unrelated to your current problem.  When we get in motion, we interrupt the ‘stuck’ pattern, which helps us clear our thoughts and become more open to inspiration.  Our physiology and emotions are inextricably linked, what you do with one, automatically affects the other.  Therefore, the quickest way to get out of a slump is to change your physiology, which automatically changes your thoughts and emotions.  Quite often when we do this, we’ll have an insight, flash of inspiration or an odd coincidence will present the solution.

Tip 2 - Ask Better Questions

Our lives are the result of the questions we have asked ourselves in the past and are, therefore, massively important to shaping our future.  Our brains are designed to answer any question we ask of it.  Therefore, if you ask a stupid question, you’ll get a stupid answer.  Look at the quality of the questions you’re asking yourself.  Are they positive or negative?  Victim orientated or owner?  Try asking different, more empowering ones such as:

  • “How can I use this?”
  • “What does this really mean?”
  • “Who can I speak to about this?”
  • “Who can help me with this?”
  • “What’s another way of looking at this?”
  • “What’s another way I could go about this?”
  • “What am I missing here?"

If you think you don’t know the answers to those questions, ask yourself, “If I did know … what would I do?" or consider the advice that you'd give to someone else in the same situation.  Often when we disassociate ourselves from the problem, a solution presents itself.

Tip 3 - Ask Others

Look for people who have done what you want to do and find out how they did it, more importantly, what they did that worked and what didn't'.   By doing this, you'll hopefully avoid making the same mistakes, enabling you to get to the end result more quickly and elegantly, with (hopefully) fewer mistakes.  Never be afraid to ask for help or advice.  Most people are incredibly flattered, especially if it’s coupled with a free coffee/lunch.  Offering someone something in return for their help (even something small) induces the law of reciprocation as they (subconsciously) feel that they have to do something in return. 


In summary, if you're feeling stuck, just do something - get into action.  Even the smallest thing can prompt a change in thinking, unlocking a solution with often minimum effort.

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