Have You Chosen the Right Goals?
Posted by: Jo Banks
Are you one of those people who makes New Year’s resolutions only to have them fall by the way side half way through January? There could be a few reasons why...
Why Goals Fail
- The goals aren’t yours – they are goals that your parents, spouse, friends or society say you should have and so you adopt them blindly without questioning them. However, if they aren’t authentic i.e. aligned with your own personal values, beliefs and what you really want to for your life, there’s little chance you’ll achieve them.
- You don’t have enough of a reason for wanting them – Reasons come first when it comes to goal achievement. I see so many people set goals and when I ask them why they want it, they can’t answer. Having a strong enough reason for wanting something will propel you forward and will help motivate you towards achieving your goal when the going gets tough.
- You haven't set reasonable timescales – Many people tend to either not set timescales or set unrealistic ones. If you don’t set timescales, goals tend to drift. If your timescales are too tight and unrealistic, it’s unlikely that you’ll achieve them and you’ll end up abandoning it.
- You don’t have a workable plan – You use plans every day in your working life so why wouldn’t you have a clear plan for your goals? Having a clear plan with realistic timescales will help you reach your goals more effectively.
Top Tips for Goal Setting
- Make sure that your reason is big enough – write down as many reasons as possible for why you should achieve you goal. You may also want to note down what will happen if you don’t achieve it – that can be a great motivator!
- Set a realistic deadline - Make sure that the timescales are achievable, not too long that you lose interest and not to short that there isn’t enough time to do everything.
- Design a plan - Identify the steps or the actions you need to take in order to achieve the goal. Literally list every action you need to take, in sequence. If that seems a little overwhelming, break each step down into smaller steps – mini projects – each one to be completed before you move on to the next. The beauty of ‘mini projects’ is that you are never failing to reach your goal, you are always working towards it.
- Take consistent action - Do the very first thing on your list NOW or as soon as you've finished your plan. Don’t wait. Action creates momentum and sets off a chain reaction which tells the brain that you're serious about achieving your goal.
- Consistently review your plan - Review your plan regularly, adjusting and adding where necessary and crossing off items that you’ve completed. ‘What get’s written down gets done’ so having a plan and sticking to it is the key to you achieving your goals.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help - We often need other people's help in order to achieve our goals, so always ask. The worst that can happen is that they say 'no'! If you don’t want people to know what your end goal is, you don’t need to tell them. In fact, I sometimes advise clients not to tell people everything about their goal so that they won’t be tempted to listen to their view (see ‘The goal isn’t yours’ above) given them the opportunity to put doubts in your mind.
Now is a great time to review those goals and make sure that they are authentic. If they are, they make sure that you have a detailed project plan for their achievement and take action NOW!
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