Posted by: Jo Banks
Some more top tips on how to deal with redundancy...
In the last post I discussed the change curve and how important it is to be able to evaluate at what stage in the ‘grief’ process you are in. By understanding each of the stages, we know that each one is only temporary and that we can move through it as quickly or slowly as we want to. In essence, the more positive we are, the better we plan and the quicker we move through the stages.
Other top tips for helping yourself through redundancy process:
Talk to people, it’s really important that we discuss our emotions and how we’re feeling rather than let things build up. There is no stigma attached to redundancy these days, in fact, if you haven’t gone at least once in your career to date, then you’re very lucky! Bottling things up will not help, so you such try and use the support network around you. It can be difficult when you’re trying to not let your worries affect your family, but it is important that you can talk about things and make decisions together.
Don’t put your head in the sand
If you are worried about your finances, don’t stick your head in the sand, talk to someone about it. Your bank will be happy to talk to you and find ways to help you, as will credit card companies and mortgage lenders. Don’t leave things until they consume you – the earlier you can speak to people if you think there may be a problem, then the easier it will be for them to help you.
There are also other government agencies out there that are set up specifically to help people in financial difficulty. The Citizens Advice Bureau and Debt Management Agency are free and will help you to design a plan that works for you.
Exercise and eat well
When we’re feeling stressed we often neglect our eating, opting to eat quick, convenience food or we turn to comfort food. However, this is the exact time when we should be looking after ourselves, and eating correctly to give us the energy both mentally and physically to deal effectively with what’s happening to us. If our energy levels are low because we haven’t been feeding our bodies with vital energy giving foods, then we’re less likely to be in a fit state to be able to take effective action or to think positively.
Exercise also plays an important part as it releases endorphins (the feel good hormone) which is proven to reduce stress and make us feel better. Whilst we are going through difficult times, we tend to release a lot of adrenalin due to experiencing ‘fight or flight’ – that adrenalin, unless used up through exercise, can build up in our bodies and lead to more stress and feelings of anxiety.
It’s very easy for these two things, eating well and exercise, to be the first things to go when we are feeling stress, however, through my experience; those people who have looked after themselves during stressful periods are the ones that move through the emotional stages much more quickly.
Our sleep can often be distrupted during such life changes, however, getting a good night's sleep is so important. I've written posts around how to sleep well, so you may wish to view those.
I also highly recommend Andrew Johnson's MP3s and Apps to help with relaxation and sleep (as well as a whole host of other things). I use them and I often recommend them to my clients. Andrew's website is www.withandrewjohnson.com/
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