Posted by: Jo Banks
Knowing how to spot a liar is a key skill that is helpful for all of us to learn...
There are very clear tell tale signs that we can use in order to spot a liar ... but we know what to look for.
Why do we lie?
We are programmed to trust, it’s one of the evolutionary skills that we’ve developed as humans, it’s key to our survival and amongst other reasons we lie to make others like us and it seems contradictory, but to gain their trust. We lie:
When we lie, there are certain things that we do that give it away, no matter how we try to cover up our lies, our body language will always give us away. As I mentioned in my previous post in this series (Body Language & Communication) if we are trying to cover up a lie, our physiology (body language, tone, intonation, facial expressions etc) won't match what we are saying verbally. They will be incongruent, this is known as body language ‘leakage’. That incongruence is not always immediately apparent, we tend to notice it on a subconscious level which tends to manifest itself in a feeling - a gut feeling that something isn't quite right.
Here are the signs to look out for when trying to spot a liar from what they do rather than what they say – this is the kind of 'leakage' you’d typically see:
Always take notice of your gut feeling, it’s there for a reason and is an inbuilt mechanism to keep you safe. If your gut feeling tells you that someone is lying or that something isn’t quite right, it probably isn’t!
If there's anything in your life that you'd like support with, why not contact us for a free, no obligation consultation on how we can help you.
Visit the website for Jo Banks' first book, Thoughts Become Things now available in paperback and Kindle formats.
Visit the website for Jo Banks' new book, Land Your Dream Job Now! now available in paperback and Kindle formats.
Jo's eighth book AVAILABLE NOW! 100 Motivational Moments is packed with inspirational hints and tips to help you build and maintain your resilience and mental toughness.