Outside In or Inside Out?

Posted by: Jo Banks

Date: 15-10-2015

Do you live your life from the Outside In or the Inside Out?

How we see the world and how we process information is really important to our happiness.  There are two types of people, those who live their lives from the Ouside In and those who live from the Inside Out.  Let's look at what that means...

Outside In

The person who lives outside in lets everything around them affect them, usually negatively. A bit like the Victim of the Victim/Owner I’ve mentioned in posts, they feel that everything is done to them and their lives are as a result of outside influences that they have no control over. It doesn’t occur to them that they have options on how they view outside circumstances and how think and react to them.

Therefore, they lurch from one disaster to another without realising that they have an option to change things, make things more positive and have a happier, healthier life.

Inside Out

The person who lives Inside Out is in control of their life. Yes bad/negative things still happen to them, but they view them in a different way. They know that they can control their thoughts (and therefore their emotions) about what’s happening and because they can control their thoughts and emotions, they are better able to deal with difficult situations. They think more clearly and are therefore more resourceful. They aren’t acting like a Victim ... they Own their lives.

How to Live an Inside Out Life

  1. Choose Your Thoughts - You always have a choice about how you think and what you do about a situation. We all have the ability to choose our thoughts. We can choose to see something in a negative way or positive way. Inside out is choosing to see things positively.
  2. Take Responsibility - You have to take responsibility for your life.  Everything you have in your life right now is as a result of YOUR previous thoughts and actions and no-one elses.  If you don't like what you have, it's in your power to change it.
  3. Ask Bettern Questions - No matter what question we ask of ourselves, we will always get an answer (it's the way our brains are made).  Therefore, ask a stupid question, you'll get a stupid answer.  You need to get into the habit of asking yourself better questions such as, "What can I do about this" "How can I make this better?" "What can I do to make sure that this doesn't happen again?"  Once you've asked some good questions and got quality answers, take some consistent action in order to move forward.
  4. Listen to Your Gut Feeling - Start to listen to you gut feelings more - rather than asking others for their opinion on what they would do in your situation, sit quietly and tune in to your inner most feelings.  As yourself what you should do (ask the question in positive terms) and wait for the answer.  Our gut feeling is an in-built guidance system that is part of our core being - it's there for a reason and once you start to tune in to what it's telling you and act on it (rather than what you're head is telling you) you'll rarely go wrong.

Those who live Inside Out are happier, in control, more resourceful and enjoy life more.  How would you describe your life? Are you living Outside In or Inside Out?

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