Posted by: Jo Banks
One thing I've learned working with such a diverse range of clients is that the past does not equal the future...
So many people believe that they can't do something or think that they have no influence over their future because of something that happened in their past or simply because of their bad programming (i.e. watching parents, carers, friends as they grew up and modelling their thoughts and behaviour). They shutdown the possibility of achieving the life they really want and deserve without giving it their all.
Just because negative or 'unlucky' things have happened to you in the past or you have witnessed others not succeeding, does not mean that it will happen to you in the future. At any time, in any moment we can choose a different path, we can choose different thoughts, we can choose to do things differently, we can choose to make better decisions ... we can choose to try something new.
We can break old patterns of thinking and behaviour and change our destiny in an instant by simply deciding what we want and taking consistent action, reviewing what's working and what's not and adapting as we progress. It could be something as simple as doing that one thing we've been putting off because we are associating it with something negative from our past that breaks the pattern. One of the amazing things that life gives us is the opportunity to start again at any moment. The only thing that stops us is us!
Life is a series of choices and decisions and we make good ones and bad ones, the key is to keep trying. If something hasn't worked, it doesn't mean that if you tackle it from another angle it won't. The most successful people try and try again until they achieve their desired result.
Take one of the most well known actors that we're all familiar with, Sylvester Stallone. He took his script for Rocky to hundreds of agents and film studios only to be rejected. Some were downright rude about his script and even more derogatory when he suggested that he should play the lead. However, he would not give up and eventually one studio said that they would take the script but wouldn't be casting him in the lead role. He said it wasn't negotiable and that if they wanted the script, they had to take him too ... the studio said no (I believe that they had lined up Robert Redford for the lead role). To cut a long story short, after constantly badgering them over a prolonged period, they relented and bought the script and cast him as the lead! The rest is history...
Bestselling authors, Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen were rejected 140 times before landing a publishing deal for 'Chicken Soup for the Soul', they've now sold over 125 million copies worldwide. JK Rowling was rejected 12 times before Bloomsbury brought her on board. The story here was that the daughter of one of their Executives had read a section of her first book and demanded to read the rest. The last four 'Harry Potter' novels consecutively set records as the fastest-selling books in history on both sides of the Atlantic, with combined sales of 450 million.
Some of the country's biggest entrepreneurs including Simon Cowell, Duncan Ballantyne, Richard Branson have openly admitted to failing on a grand scale at least once in their careers. What makes them different is that they didn't stop trying, they didn't say, "Oh dear, that didn't work, I might as well give up"!
As an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, "How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?" Edison replied, "I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps".
What if they had stopped trying? What if they had become discouraged after being rejected? Successful people take stock after a failure, they looked at the lessons they learned, what worked and what didn't and tried again. The past does not equal the future.
Is there something that you aren't doing because you've tried it in the past and it didn't work or you know someone else that tried it and it didn't work for them. I'm guessing that you (and they) failed not because you couldn't do it but because you stopped trying!
Isn't it time you shed that old programming and those old views and took the control back for yourself? What is it that you'd love to do but you've convinced yourself you can't or it won't work? Now is a good a time as any to take a look at that 'something' with new eyes and all you need to do to get started is to DECIDE to make it work, write a PLAN and take one small ACTION towards it's attainment.
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