Posted by: Jo Banks
Are you a Victim or an Owner? Glass half empty or glass half full person? Lucky or unlucky? Read on to understand how you view of yourself and your life is affecting everything...
With the work that I do, I've found that you can pretty much split the poplulation in to two types of people ... Victims and Owners (you could also use lucky/unlucky, but I think the Victim/Owner labels are much better descriptions).
So, let’s look at some definitions:
The complete opposite to Victims:
So is it that Owners don’t have the problems that Victims have? Are they somehow miraculously shielded by a Super Hero cape that protects them from anything bad happening to them? Absolutely not, they are affected by illness, money issues, family problems, floods, fires, losing their jobs/business, births, marriages and deaths the same as Victims. So, what is the difference then? The difference is how they think and feel about what’s happening to them. The Owner either consciously or unconsciously chooses to think positively about their life and the situations that arise. That’s it! That’s all there is. That’s the only difference.
They are no luckier than a Victim; they just choose to see things in a more positive way and because they have that positive view, they are ultimately much more resourceful. Their mind isn’t clouded by doubt, sadness, apathy, negativity and therefore they see things more clearly and are able to take positive action. They view situations without negative emotions which enables them to deal with things more effectively.
If you’ve been reading my other posts, you must be seeing a theme by now. Thinking positively changes EVERYTHING. It’s possible to start to think more positively and move from being a Victim to an Owner even if you’ve had a lifetime of negative thoughts. I’m testament to that. I used to be unbelievably negative until I realised that I actually had a choice and activity stopped my negative thinking. I’m not saying that I’m positive every second of every day, it’s definitely a work in progress, but if I notice any negativity creeping in, I deal with it ... quickly before it takes a hold, using the techniques I've been explaining in my posts.
So how do we actually make that transition from negative to positive, Victim to Owner? Well believe it or not, you’ve already started. By the mere fact that you’re reading this means that you are now aware that you have a choice, if you weren’t already aware. You should also (if you’ve been reading my other posts) be recognising negative thoughts when they occur and hopefully be changing them to positive ones. If you’re not sure how to do that, it’s much more simple than it sounds:
How to change negative thoughts
As soon as you notice a negative thought, think of something you love, a family member, a pet, a sunny day, anything that you love, that makes you smile and gives you a warm feeling inside. Positive and negative thoughts cannot occur at the same time and therefore one cancels out the other, just make sure it’s the right one!
The more you practise positive thinking, the easier it will be and the better your life will become. You’ll notice situations aren’t so difficult, people react to you in a much more positive manner, strange ‘coincidences’ will start to happen and you’ll start to feel happier and more contented. We weren’t born to be sad, unhappy and negative, they’re just unhelpful behaviours that we’ve learned along the way. By the same measure, you can learn new happy, positive behaviours to replace them.
Being a victim or being an owner is a choice. Successful people tend to be owners; they take responsiblity for everything that happens to them, they ask better questions, plan and take consistent action.
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