Posted by: Jo Banks
How to set 'authentic goals' rather than goals that you or someone else think you should want...
How many times have you made a New Year’s resolution and not stuck to it? For example “I’m going to exercise more and join the gym!” but by the third week in January, you’ve already stopped going and that £500 gym membership sits gathering dust?
Have you ever thought why so many New Year’s resolutions are forgotten half way through January? Some valid answers could be:
Are Your Goals Authentic?
One way to determine whether the goal is an authentic one ie one that you really want and is in harmony with who you really are is to answer the question:
If you knew that you couldn’t fail, what would be your goal(s)?
Asking yourself that question usually raises some interesting answers.
When I’m working with a client on their goals, I always ask that question. I ask it very early on, usually in the first session, if I don’t I could end up working with a client on a goal that they don’t really want. After digging around for a bit, asking very pointed questions, the answer is inevitably along the lines of:
That “but” is the key for me. That’s the bit I like to work with and as I scrap away, getting right underneath that “but”, it usually comes down to one of 9 things:
If you can identify EXACTLY what it is that you want and what’s stopping you achieving it, you’re half way there. Once you identify the blockers (and that may mean working it through with a coach), you’ll usually find that they aren’t blockers at all and your goals will be easier to reach than you ever imagined.
Take a look at the goals you've had in the past - actually write them down.
How to achieve your goals
So few people actually achieve there goals. The difference between those that do:
In Goal Setting Part 2 I discuss how to achieve you goals. If you need help with your goal setting and achieving your goals, please contact us for a free, no obligation consultation on how we can help you.
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